Round table for teachers with elements of the training “life is given for good deeds.” Parent meeting "education with kindness" Round table on the topic of kindness

meeting
"We educate with kindness"

Educator

Kakulia O.I.

KDUU (nursery-kindergarten)

"Okay"

Combined type

Rovenki

Meeting plan:

1. 
   Psychological and pedagogical training “What goes around comes around”
2. 
   Fragment complex lesson on the development of speech and familiarization with the environment: “Journey into the fairy tale “Tsvetik - seven-colored flower”.

4. Round table with tea drinking and sharing the experiences of parents “How do I

raising my child"

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Preliminary work:

1. Design of an exhibition of family photographs: “Our good deeds”

2. Preparation of reminders: “What is more effective – praise or punishment”

"The art of punishing and forgiving"

3. Design of a stand with statements: “How to raise a child

kindness"

4. Introducing children to poems, stories, fairy tales,

proverbs about kindness, responsiveness, mercy.

5. Reading the fairy tale by V. P. Kataev “Flower - Seven Flowers”.

6. Questioning parents: “Family relationships.”

Educator: Good afternoon, our dear parents!

We are very glad to see you all in our group. And we would like to start our evening today with the words of Sukhomlinsky: “Good feelings must be rooted in childhood... If you don’t cultivate good feelings in childhood, you will never cultivate them, because what is truly human is established in the soul simultaneously with the knowledge of the first and most important truths... In childhood, a person must go through an emotional school—the school of instilling good feelings.”

Therefore, today we are not having a simple evening, but an evening of kindness and responsiveness.

And we came not empty-handed, but with these tiny flower seeds. These seeds are like our children, small and defenseless. And if we put love, care, affection and warmth into them from the very beginning, then only then will we be able to grow beautiful and delicate flowers. It’s not for nothing that they say that

as you sow, so shall you reap.

I would like to note that of the most important qualities that should

getting children for their happy future from parents and loved ones is kindness.

Tell me, what is kindness in your understanding?

^ Parents' answers.

A child is like a flower who turns his head to warmth and light, care

and affection, stretches out and opens up to them. And today we want to invite you all to sow our flower bed, behind which

The guys and I will watch and, of course, take care. This will be our joint good deed, which can unite us and our children.

^ Parents and children plant seeds in a large flower container.

Afterwards, the sprouts can be transplanted into a flower bed.

Each of our activities with children begins with a game situation: we

we find ourselves on an island or in a magical forest, in the land of mathematics or the wonderful state of Queen Tassel. And today not only children,

but we also invite you, our parents, to magical land fairy tales After all

in that childhood, kindness, responsiveness, affection, everything moral qualities, can be educated and developed with the help of artistic

words: poems, stories, proverbs, fairy tales. And now the children and I will show you an excerpt from the lesson: “Journey to the fairy tale “Flower - Seven Flowers.”

^ Lesson fragment:

Vocal: Guys, today not only your parents came to visit us, but

and one more guest: a cheerful, kind character from a fairy tale. Look, do you recognize him?

^ A brownie glove puppet, Kuzi, appears from behind the screen.

The children call him by name. They say hello.

Vocal: That's right guys, this is Kuzya's brownie. He loves fairy tales very much, but he is not interested in watching them alone. So he thought, where are there always a lot of children? What do you think?

Children: In kindergarten.

Vosp-l: Of course, in kindergarten. And Kuzya decided that he would definitely call

all of us into a fairy tale. Do you want to get into a fairy tale?

Vosp-l: But to get there, you must say what kind of character fairy-tale heroes are?

Children: Kind, cheerful, funny, cunning, evil...

Vosk: Which ones do you like best? Why?

^ Children's answers.

Vosp-l: Do you want to know what fairy tale little brownie Kuzya invites us to?

He brought us a clue, look.

The teacher shows the children a flower - a seven-flowered one.

Vocal: Guys, look carefully at this flower. What colour is he?

How many petals does it have?

What fairy tale do you think he is from?

Children: From the fairy tale “Flower - Seven Flowers”

Vosp-l: Of course, this flower came to us from the fairy tale by V.P. Kataev “The Flower - the Seven-Flower”. Remember and tell me how this flower was born?

^ Children's answers.

Vocal: That's right, the seven-flowered flower appeared from a small seed that the sorceress planted in the garden. Children, today we are in a fairy tale, so we can also turn into flowers. Want to?

^ I dress the children in flower masks.

Play: Now let's show how our flowers appear and grow.

But first, tell me, who looks after the flowers, takes care of them?

Children: Gardener.

^ They choose a gardener.

Sketch “From seed to flower”

Vocal: Let's turn into a small seed. (shrink into a ball on the floor, remove your head and cover it with your hands). The gardener is very careful

to the seeds, waters them (the child gardener strokes the children’s head and body), takes care of them.

With warm spring sun the seed begins to grow (the children rise). Its leaves open (arms hang from the head and stretch upward), a stem grows (the body stretches), branches with buds appear (arms to the sides, fingers clenched).

A joyful moment comes and the buds burst (the fists unclench sharply), and the sprout turns into a beautiful strong flower. Summer comes, the flower becomes prettier, admires itself (examine itself), smiles at the neighboring flowers (smile at each other), bows to them, lightly touches them with its petals (reach the neighbors with your fingertips).

But then the wind blew, autumn is coming. The flower swings in different directions, fights against bad weather (swinging with arms, head, body). The wind tears off the petals and leaves (the arms and head drop), the flower bends, bends towards the ground and lies on it. He's sad. But then the winter snow began to fall. The flower again turned into a small seed (curl up on the floor). The snow has covered the seed, it is warm and calm. Soon spring will come again, and it will come to life!

Vocal: Well done! What beautiful, wonderful flowers grew in our garden.

Tell me, if you had magic petals, what kind would you like?

did you do good deeds?

^ Children's thoughts.

Vosk-l: What do you think, Zhenya from a fairy tale kind girl or not? Why?

Would you like to be like her?

Children's answers.

Question: Guys, think carefully and tell me what color it could be

kindness? Why?

Children: Yellow, red, orange….

Vocabulary: Of course, kindness is always only in light colors, because

kindness is smiles, joy, tenderness, affection, responsiveness, everything that makes your soul light.

What color can you use to show anger, rudeness, cruelty, greed?

Children: Black.

Vocabulary: Look, Kuzya the brownie has collected a lot of petals in our flower garden different color and invites you to choose one petal for yourself.

^ Offer the children a bag of petals of different colors:

from white to black.

Question: What color did you take the petals? Why?

Children: Because we want to be kind, cheerful, affectionate, respect our elders...

Kuzya: (behind the screen) I’m very glad that I visited you today, because

that I saw kind, sympathetic, cheerful children who know a lot and

know how to get the job done together.

^ Children say goodbye to the brownie.

Vocal: Children, did we play with you today? Did you have fun?

And moms and dads sat and were bored. And to make it more fun for them, let's play with them too. Take your petals and, together with your parents, write “kind, affectionate” words on them.

^ Parents and children write words on petals that express kindness, politeness, mercy...

After reading the words, invite the children to collect from the petals

"Flower Meadow of Kindness."

Vosk-l: Today we all visited a good magical fairy tale,

which, at least a little bit, taught children to be sensitive, polite and caring. And now, at this age, your task is Dear Parents, continue to create and constantly maintain in your family an atmosphere of love and joy, mercy and mutual assistance.

^ Round table:

Teacher’s word: “We educate with kindness”

Educator : Even in peasant families, they tried to teach children mercy, pity and compassion for people in distress, for the unfortunate, wretched and poor. The entire life of the family gave the children examples of this kind of behavior. Village custom obliged peasants to welcome a tired traveler into their home, warm him, and feed him. They helped widows and orphans to plow and sow the land, shelter and help fire victims...

The ability to forgive offenses was especially valued. The peasants even had a special day when everyone had to forgive each other.

This happened on Forgiveness Sunday. This custom has been preserved among us

still.

Today, children develop much faster than before. Reasons

there is a lot to this: a large flow of information and accessibility to obtaining it, changes in the methods of education and training...

And our kind, magical fairy tales and outdoor games in the courtyards are no longer

They excite and interest children so much. They have been replaced by modern cartoons and games near consoles and computers.

Even many parents now pay more attention to physical

And mental development children. But walking, talking, reading and writing

The baby will definitely learn, but to feel, empathize and love is more difficult to teach.

You may ask, how can you raise a kind child?

First of all, you need to start with yourself, with your atmosphere in the family, because parents are role models. After all, what a child sees around him is reflected in his actions and behavior.

Teach to treat the people around you, their requests, needs, and advice with respect and attention; empathize with them, rejoice at their achievements.

Cultivate a caring attitude towards all living things: plants,

birds, animals, even tiny insects. Set an example yourself by your behavior, caring for flowers, caring for animals, building

bird feeders...

Encourage children for the right, even small, kind deeds. Let's understand that people always respond to good deeds with gratitude.

Very important for moral education books are playing. Try to read and discuss fairy tales, stories, poems as much as possible, in which kindness, responsiveness, tenderness, and beauty predominate. In addition, get used to watching “good” films and cartoons.

And of course, find a place in your life for animals. Show care and love for them. Play and feed them with your children. Make it clear

that there are beings who need our care, attention and kindness.

Try it, and you will see for yourself how your child changes, how more and more positive emotions and qualities appear in him, how his little, childish soul opens up to you even more.

^ During a tea party, invite parents to share experiences on how,

What methods do they use to raise their child?

Result: Today you and I received a lot of positive emotions from communicating with each other. And in the future I would like to wish you all only joyful, bright, sunny days. And let your children be your sunshine, who will always be able to give you warmth, affection, care, attention and, of course, their boundless love.

I would like to end our meeting today with this wonderful poem:
^ Family is what we share among everyone,

A little bit of everything: tears and laughter,

Rise and fall, joy, sadness,

Friendship and quarrels, silence stamped.

Family is what is always with you,

Let the seconds, weeks, years rush by,

But the walls are dear, your father’s house,

The heart will forever remain in it!

^ QUESTIONNAIRE FOR PARENTS

"Family relationships"
The questionnaire proposed below will allow teachers to study the child’s position in their family, the characteristics family education, the atmosphere that reigns in the homes of preschool children, the main thing in family education:

1. What do you consider the main thing in family education?________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

2. What is most characteristic of the general atmosphere in your family (underline):

• 
  goodwill, mutual respect;
• 
  cheerfulness, joyful mood, humor;
• 
  calmness, balance;
• 
  nervousness, aloofness, rudeness.

people? __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
6. What traits do you want to cultivate in your child first of all?__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
7. What qualities do you notice most often in your children?________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
8. What negative traits are you actively combating in your child?________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
9. Do you have any common activities or hobbies with your child? Which?________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

10. How often and what exactly do children tell you about kindergarten? What do they especially like and dislike about our kindergarten?________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Let's think together about what you want your child to be like when he grows up? The main thing is that the child grows up to be a kind, decent person. But sometimes there is a whole abyss from what is desired to reality. Therefore, first I ask you to read 10 commandments. Perhaps they will help you open the door. to the world of kindness.

Never humiliate a child.

Know how to love someone else's child.

What good deeds can a teenager do? How to teach this? (reasoning).
If we want our child to be kind, we must exclude from communication unkind conversations about people and animals in the presence of children. A child's ear hears and absorbs literally everything.

Training "Kindness Pie". (game "Ring")

Imagine that you need to divide the pie, distribute it to family members and say the kindest and warmest words. How will you do this?

(2-4 parents are asked to play out the situation).

How do you understand what it means to teach children goodness? (discussion).
To teach children to be kind means to teach them to have compassion and empathy when looking at misfortune. This is the ability to rejoice and experience the joys of others as your own.

Whatever the child is, accept him as such.

Recognize the child’s right to make mistakes.

Help your child act independently.

A child must learn about himself and improve himself.

Municipal budgetary preschool educational institution "Child Development Center - Kindergarten No. 165"

Round table

Topic: “Lessons in politeness and kindness”

Performed:

Kalashnikova N.A.

Orenburg - 2015

Attracting the attention of parents to the issue of instilling a culture of behavior in preschoolers.

Materials: red, yellow, blue chips; pieces of paper; pens;

Progress of the event:

Hello dear parents! We are happy to see you! Let's talk about our children today. Is my child educated? Isn't society ashamed of him? Is he sensitive, attentive, and attentive? Everyone will have their own answer to these questions, and how correctly we answer the questions posed will depend on our desire and ability.

Our children are the best, the most educated, but where does their callousness, indifference, irresponsibility, rudeness, and disrespect towards us come from?

The explanatory dictionary edited by S.I. Ozhegov says that a well-mannered person is a person who knows how to behave well. A person's upbringing, his good manners, his respect for others, people and himself begins in childhood.

Are there any secrets to cultivating a culture of behavior in our time? This is what we will talk about today. And we hope that together we will find answers to many questions.

And now we invite you to look at your children from the outside and analyze their behavior with the help of chips lying on the trays.

If the child follows this rule, then you place a red chip on the table; if it doesn’t always do it or isn’t quite right – yellow color; if it doesn’t fulfill it at all, it’s blue.

The child knows how to wash his hands, and always washes them before eating and after visiting the toilet. Knows how to dry himself with an unfolded towel.

Folds clothes neatly.

Always uses a handkerchief as needed. Yawns and blows his nose silently.

Politely asks to tie a hat, button up a coat, and thanks for the help provided.

He knows how to apologize in time and says this word with the right intonation and feeling of guilt.

Does not point fingers at others or objects.

Does not interfere in conversation unnecessarily.

When meeting, he greets warmly, and when saying goodbye, he always says “goodbye.”

Does not throw papers, wrappers, etc. on the street or indoors.

Doesn't say swear words.

Knows how to play together with other children.

He is not capricious and does not express his demands by shouting.

Doesn't fight with other children.

Complies with the rules of conduct when visiting and in public places.

Look at the colors to help you decide what to work on with your children using tried and tested examples, praise and exercises.

Now let's look at some situations:

1.Mom takes the child from kindergarten. They get dressed in the locker room. After getting dressed, mom says: “Go, say goodbye to the teacher.” The child, looking into the group, says goodbye. And mother and child go home.

Do you think everything was done correctly in terms of instilling in the child the rules of a culture of behavior?

How would you act in such a situation? (parents' statements)

Summary:

How you talk with other people and talk about other people, how you are happy or sad, how you communicate with friends and enemies, how you laugh, read newspapers - all this is of great importance for a child. The example of adults - kindergarten employees and parents - is important. Their friendliness and goodwill are passed on to the children.

2. Two mothers talking: Hello, how are you? - Fine. Aren't you in a hurry?

No, what’s the hurry, I’m walking with the child, we’re going shopping (the child interrupts and tugs the mother’s sleeve). Mom, look at the boy’s gun, buy me the same one.

Don't poke your nose in when adults are talking.

Oh, I was in the store yesterday, I almost bought such a selection of dishes.

Child: Tell me, will you buy a gun? Well, tell me, will you buy it?

Leave me alone, let me talk calmly, I'm tired of it. So, there’s just so much to be found at the market.

Child: Well, let's go to the store quickly, I want a gun.

What a child! He can’t stand for a minute and won’t let me talk.

Were there any mistakes in the mother’s behavior? Which?

What do you do when your child interrupts the conversation?

(parents' statements)

Summary:

If a child interrupts an adult or butts into a conversation, this may mean:

he doesn't know how to listen;

shows aggression towards the one he interrupts;

wants to attract attention (being the center of the family universe);

does not have sufficient patience;

does not receive additional parental attention (one of the symptoms of hyperactivity).

How to instill a culture of behavior in children? (parents' statements)

When raising a child, you should remember some features of preschool age:

Unsustainability of skills and habits

Inaccuracy in following the rules of behavior

Lack of awareness of one's actions

Imitation

The matter is decided not by contemplating a positive example, but by organizing the lives of children in such a way that they are encouraged to perform appropriate actions and deeds. Repeated exercises help develop the habit of saying hello, saying goodbye, thanking, and mastering certain norms of behavior. It is important to train children in moral actions and actions, using natural life situations and creating special conditions that encourage such actions. Gradually accumulating, the experience of moral habits will determine the child’s behavior culture

And now the test “Children are raised by parents. What about the parents? »

Listen carefully to the questions asked. Try to answer them frankly. The test will complement your idea of ​​yourself as a teacher and will help you draw conclusions regarding the problems of education.

Count only the number of “I can” answers.

Can you:

At any moment, leave all your business and take care of your child?

Consult with a child, regardless of his age?

Confess to your child the mistake you made towards him?

Apologize to your child if you are wrong?

Put yourself in the child's place?

Tell your child an instructive incident from childhood that portrays you in an unfavorable light?

Always refrain from using words and expressions that could hurt a child?

Promise your child that his wish will be granted for good behavior?

Resist children's requests and tears if you are sure that this is a whim?

If only they could come up with a robot educator capable of perfect education. Would you like to buy it for yourself?

Can you demand from your child something that you sometimes don’t do yourself?

If you answered “I can” to 7-12 questions, this means that a child is the greatest value in your life. You strive not only to understand, but also to get to know him, treat him with respect. Follow a consistent line of behavior. You can hope for good results.

If you answered “I can” to 5-7 questions, caring for a child is an important issue for you. You have the ability to teach, but in practice you use them inconsistently. Sometimes you are very strict, or too kind. You should seriously think about your approach to raising a child.

If you answered “I can” to 1-4 questions, you have a serious problem with raising a child. You lack either knowledge or desire, the desire to make your child a cultural person. We advise you to consult psychologists and specialized literature.

Upbringing in the family is the foundation. Everything else: kindergarten, school, college, environment - additional polishing, nothing more.

The personal example of parents is the main condition for education. What a child sees every day in the family, he will definitely transfer into adulthood.

We must remember that the child does not yet know the rules, so he needs to be explained in detail and more than once. Then, of course, given that Small child very emotional, form a positive attitude towards the rules. This can be done through conversations about rules, reading short stories where characters behave incorrectly, and discussing what they read. And, of course, the most important thing is for the adults themselves to behave correctly. Then the child, imitating the adult in everything, will also imitate him in correct behavior.

One of important conditions nurturing a culture of child behavior is the unity of adults’ requirements for the child. At first glance, achieving it is not difficult, but the realities of modern life show at every step, for example, that in kindergarten the requirements are one, the mother has others, and the grandmother can afford still others.

Draft decision of the parent meeting:

1.Teach children the rules of cultural behavior

2.Parents should be a role model for the child

3. Requirements for the child from adults in the family must be uniform

A. S. Makarenko wrote: “Our children are our old age. Proper upbringing is our happy old age, bad upbringing is our future grief, these are our tears, our guilt before other people.”

So may we, adults, have enough patience, love, and spiritual strength in order to raise our children to the heights of a culture of behavior.

Round table for parents

Subject: "Cultivating kindness through communication with pets."

Teacher, Kondratova Svetlana Leontievna

Target: to encourage parents to consciously have an animal in the family for their child, to promote close communication between children and representatives of the natural world and the formation of a caring attitude towards them.

Progress

I. Preliminary work.

Viewing by parents of a photo exhibition on the topic: “We are friends of nature.”

Prepare an audio recording of children's stories about their pets.

Prepare funny stories for parents about interactions between a child and a pet.

II. Main stage.

1. Announcement of the topic and introductory part.

2. Discussion of issues.

What is kindness? (Parents' statements)

“Kindness” is responsiveness, emotional disposition towards people, the desire to do good to others, says S. I. Ozhegov in the explanatory dictionary of the Russian language.

In one of the pedagogical commandments, V. A. Sukhomlinsky said that the first touches of the child’s mind and feelings to the world around him should be gentle and affectionate.

Kindness and kindness again are the thinnest and most powerful roots that nourish the tree of childhood joy, the joy of a gentle touch to the living and beautiful. A little person should love all living things, because only kindness reveals to a child the joy of mutual understanding.

All the best and good man draws from nature. She is our main teacher, she is our chief assistant in raising children. The desire to live in kindness, beauty, peace and joy - this is what we should teach our children.

3. Discussion with parents about the photo exhibition.

4. Listening to audio recordings of children's stories about their pets. Expressions of parents' opinions about what they heard.

5. Discussion of issues about the benefits for a child of communicating with pets and the conditions for keeping them in the family.

They give positive emotions when communicating with them.

The opportunity to play and talk, pet an animal is necessary for children, especially when adults are constantly busy. Through interaction with them, children develop the ability to sympathize and empathize, to understand others.

What problems arise when a child wants to have an animal? (parents' statements)

Children often ask to buy a cat or dog. In nature, in the country, animals are not a hindrance. But if you know for sure that you will not take him into your apartment in the fall, find the strength to refuse your baby right away. Not only from the point of view environmental education, but first of all, from the standpoint of moral education, there is nothing worse than throwing out an animal that is accustomed to the warmth of home and has managed to make friends with a child. In addition to the negative aspects of this act, this is also a lesson in permissiveness towards nature that you taught to your child. By doing this, you give the child a reason to behave irresponsibly towards nature, believing that we humans are more important than our smaller brothers.

Particular attention should be paid to such an issue as the eradication in some children desire to torture animals, exterminate them, harming nature.

Remember, children are very receptive, they believe in the truth of everything they are taught. Having learned to sympathize and take care of them, children begin to show kindness and care to their peers and parents. Even if these are small things, over time they will turn into big and good ones. Therefore, not a single minute, not a single day should be missed in education. Nurturing kindness should be a systematic and constant task for parents.

Dear parents!

Our peace and happiness common house in our hands, only together we can preserve this common Home for every inhabitant of the Earth, for our children and grandchildren. Therefore, we must turn our face to nature, to its problems. Each of us must take care of the protection and cleanliness of our common Home!

6. Advice for parents: “Which animal is better to have at home?”

All children adore animals, and many want to have a kitten, dog, bird or turtle at home. First of all, the animal can become good friend for only children in the family or for closed, timid children. But if an animal appears in the house, this entails great responsibility, which the parents also bear.
A pet requires care and attention, responsibility and independence for your child and at the same time contributes to his development. However, interest in the animal often disappears very quickly, and joy turns into a burdensome responsibility.
Parents, like children, should know that the animal needs daily care. He needs to be fed, cleaned, and looked after. This requires time, which will have to be spent every day, and, in addition, it costs money. Not only your child, but you yourself must agree to pay attention to and care for the animal. It is also necessary to determine who will care for the animal when the whole family is on vacation. Perhaps visiting friends or relatives who already have a pet will help you understand what problems may arise in your home. Perhaps someone in the family suffers from allergies, then the question disappears by itself.
For children preschool age The most suitable pets are rabbits, golden hamsters or guinea pigs. They can be picked up and stroked, they are quite hardy, and feeding them is not a big problem. With the exception of golden hamsters, which become especially active in the evenings, all these animals require daily care. In addition, you need to take care of walking, because constant stay in a cage has a bad effect on the locomotor system of these animals. The cage must be cleaned at least once or twice a week, otherwise the smell will soon become unbearable.
Some children have a liking for budgies, canaries or aquarium fish. But when caring for these animals, they will need more help from adults. Cats are very skittish and do not always make good companions, but they are easier to keep indoors. Dogs, on the contrary, are very affectionate and dependent on humans. They can be an ideal playmate for a child, but they need a lot of care, attention, walking and training.
Therefore, get a dog only if you yourself want it, and not just because of your child’s whim. A dog needs a lot of space and time because it becomes a real family member and a devoted friend to your child. When choosing a dog, you should take into account character traits that, on the one hand, are inherent to a particular breed, and on the other, to a specific animal. The best advice is from a kennel club, dog training school, or someone who owns a dog.

7. Discussion with parents about funny stories of a child’s communication with an animal, bird or fish.

8. Analysis of moral situations.

9.Exchange of parents’ experiences about the living of representatives of nature in the family and the influence of the animal on the child’s behavior.

10. Statements of parents’ opinions on this topic.

11. Summing up the discussion.

12. Evaluating the form of interaction using signs of different colors.

Many children understand what kindness is, but their actions are not always kind. And our task, the task of adults, is to instill in them from early childhood the need to do good deeds.

What is kindness? Let’s read the answer to this question in Ozhegov’s explanatory dictionary: “Kindness is responsiveness, emotional disposition towards people, the desire to do good to others” .

• Kindness is a very complex and multifaceted personality trait. The book identifies seven main "steps" kindness.
• Friendliness is an open and trusting attitude towards people.
• Honesty is sincerity and truthfulness in actions and thoughts.
• Responsiveness is the willingness to help other people.
• Conscience is moral responsibility for one's actions.
• Compassion - sympathy, empathy, the ability to feel someone else's pain.
• Nobility - high morality, selflessness.
• Love is a deep heartfelt feeling, the highest degree of positive attitude.

It is no secret that many young parents believe that it is necessary to cultivate in a child not kindness, but a strong character that will help him in life. According to such adults, today those who survive and prosper are those who are distinguished by selfishness, assertiveness, and the ability to defend their interests at any cost.

A similar pedagogical position, when kindness is opposed "aggressive" personality traits, is erroneous and harmful not only for society, but also for the children themselves, regardless of whether a boy or a girl grows up in the family. Real volitional qualities not only do not exclude kindness, responsiveness and sensitivity, but to a large extent must be predetermined by them. Otherwise, a hard-hearted egoist grows out of a person.

It is necessary to cultivate kindness and sensitivity in a child with the same, if not more, persistence and consistency as willpower. And most importantly, kindness can only be cultivated through kindness.

Raising a child should not be understood as regulating his behavior and reading him moral sermons. It is very important that the child, as early as possible, feels the reality of someone else’s suffering and empathizes with him, so that he can love, pity, forgive, and help. The task of parents is to create and constantly maintain in their family an atmosphere of love and kindness, mercy and mutual assistance.

Parents are the child’s first guides in understanding and mastering moral requirements, helping him acquire social experience. What is sown by parents in the family will grow throughout life. A "sow" parents mainly through personal moral example. Education is based on the example of the life of the father and mother, it is always active, regardless of whether the family talks about morals and standards of behavior or not.

Nowadays, there has been, so to speak, a substitution of concepts. Sometimes you hear something like this: “A boy from a prosperous family. Mom is an economist at a successful company. Dad has his own business. How could this child do such a terrible thing?” But the well-being of a family is not determined by it financial situation, A high level intrafamily morality, when adult family members with all their behavior (not moralizing) instill sensitivity, responsiveness, and empathy in children.

When communicating with your child, do not forget to give him examples of kindness.

Not all parents understand that teaching kindness begins with rewarding for a good deed. The baby handed his toy to his mother for the first time. “Oh, what a wonderful pyramid! - she should tell him. - How I want to play with her. And how good you were to give me this toy! Thank you, my good baby!” Instead of these words, the mother hastily, not noticing the first generosity and kindness of her child, says something completely different: “Play yourself. This is your pyramid!”

An adult teaches kindness by unobtrusively drawing the child’s attention, first of all, to the personality of another child: "Don't hurt the girl" ; “The baby is crying, come and calm him down” ; “Give the boy your car to play with, he liked it” .

The essence of kindness is the ability to empathize. Often adults allow children to hurt animals. If a toddler swung a stick at a bird or a cat, you should not laugh, justify him, believing that he is still small and does not understand anything. You need to calmly but confidently say about your dissatisfaction with his behavior. The baby may want to repeat his experiment, but parents must be adamant.

A lot of such lessons will be required. They need to start very early. It is necessary to instill good feelings based on the good that has already been formed in the character or is beginning to take shape.

To begin to raise in children such, it would seem, "old fashioned" , but the qualities necessary for survival in society, such as kindness, mutual assistance, compliance, are needed from a very early age. You should not think that children under the age of 3 understand little and do not remember anything. It is during this period that their entire being is ready to learn and understand the world, to assimilate its laws and rules. Everything that he sees and hears in the first years of life is deposited in the subcortex of the brain. So later he may not remember what exactly at 1 year and 1 month his mother told him: “We need to take care of our little brothers” , but will know this as if intuitively, as a matter of course.

Start instilling in your children compassion for people, the ability to empathize, rejoice in the happiness of others, love and respect for nature, plants, and animals. To do this, you will have to start with yourself, because parents are the most important role models.

Talk about difficult things simply

For spiritual education It is very important to read to your baby cautionary tales with a happy ending, in which good always triumphs over evil. It is better if a children's book with fairy tales contains colorful drawings, which can be used to explain to the smallest children in your own words what is happening.

For older children (from 2-3 years) You can be allowed to watch good, educational cartoons or children's TV shows where the main characters learn to do good. Children perceive visual images much more clearly.

How to reward or punish a child

It is also very important to encourage a child for doing the right thing, letting him understand that people always respond to good deeds with gratitude and can reward someone who helped them in trouble.

If your child has done something wrong (hit a yard cat, uprooted an innocent flower), talk to him like an adult, explain that such actions are always punished. But if you see that the baby is repenting, help him make amends (pat and feed the offended cat, put the torn flower back in its place).

When punishing, think!? For what?!

Seven rules about punishment:

1. Punishment should not harm health, either physical or mental. Punishment should be useful.
2. If in doubt whether to punish or not to punish, do not punish.
3. Punishment is not at the expense of love, no matter what happens, do not deprive the child of well-deserved praise or reward.
4. Statute of limitations. It is better not to punish than to punish belatedly. Late punishments instill in the child the past, preventing him from becoming different.
5. Punished - forgiven (not a word about old sins)
6. Punish, but do not humiliate.
7. The punishment should be clear. The child must know exactly why he was punished.

The most important thing is not to forget that a child, like a mirror, reflects the behavior of his parents. Develop yourself spiritually, and your baby will grow after you!

Advice for parents in raising children

1. Never raise someone in a bad mood.
2. Be clear about what you want from your child and explain it to him. And also find out what he thinks about this.
3. Give your child independence, don’t control his every step.
4. Evaluate the action, not the person. The essence of a person and his individual actions are not the same thing.
5. Let your child feel (smile, touch) that you sympathize with him, believe in him. Despite his mistakes.
6. Parent (educator) must be firm, but kind.

One of the commandments in raising children is that a child must be kind, generous, be able to share with friends, and give with great joy rather than take.