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Many men know how difficult it can be to understand what is going on in a woman’s head.
Each girl is unique, so it is sometimes almost impossible to find out about her feelings.
But by doing a little research and learning more about female psychology, this task becomes much easier.
Eyes– where exactly does she direct her attention? Do her pupils dilate or become wider when someone enters the room?
Lips- are they smiling or frowning?
Feet- where are they directed?
Hands– where do they touch, what do they hold?
Facial redness or sweating– pay attention to sudden redness of the face and neck, sweating and wet palms – these can all be a good sign.
Breath– sometimes when we are nervous, we have difficulty breathing. In other cases, on the contrary, we relax and breathe more slowly if we are near a loved one.
Always pay attention to the situation and how her reaction to you differs from the reaction to other people in the room.
In general, the body language of girls and women is more difficult to read than that of men, since the fair sex is less straightforward.
And remember that every girl is individual, and these tips serve only as tips that will help you understand how much a girl is attracted to you.
Signs that a girl likes you
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1. She straightens up, straightens her shoulders and sucks in her stomach.
If a girl's posture changes and she tries to straighten up, then she subconsciously wants to impress you.
Pay attention to her posture as she walks past you or walks away from you. If she knows that you will be looking at her, she will automatically change her posture. At the same time, the girl can slightly sway her hips, as if she were on a catwalk.
In addition, she will try to lick her lips, stretch her neck, or touch her more often, as she wants to emphasize her body or face. Her interest is also often evident when she adjusts her hair or tilts her head.
2. Her feet are pointing in your direction.
According to psychologists, this is one of the most accurate non-verbal clues that someone likes you.
This is explained by the fact that we rarely consciously pay attention to what our legs are doing.
Main features:
If her feet are pointed at you, that's a good sign.
If they are looking in another direction - for example, at the door, then she may not be interested.
If she sits cross-legged and her legs are tightly intertwined, then most likely she is nervous or uncomfortable around you.
If a girl sits freely, her legs are not pressed against her body, then she is quite relaxed and enjoys spending time with you
3. Her body is facing you
As with the feet, the direction of the body is an important indicator of her liking.
It's good if her body is turned in your direction and she gives you full attention. The body, like the feet, subconsciously turns towards the person in whom we are interested, and this is something we rarely think about.
If she is talking to you, but her body is turned away from you, this is not a very good sign.
4. She notices and reacts when you touch her.
A girl's reaction to physical touch is an excellent indicator of whether she likes you.
If she has a crush, she will definitely notice if you touch her, even if the touch is purely platonic. She may blush, smile and move closer to you.
If she doesn't like you, she will likely move away when you touch her, even if the movement is subtle.
Of course, it still depends on where you are touching and how appropriate such a gesture is in a given situation. If you are having a conversation, lightly touch her shoulder - this is enough to see her reaction.
5. She seeks physical contact with you.
Everyone knows that we like to touch whoever we like. For example, a woman may lightly touch the arm of the person she is talking to. This kind of light touch is not necessarily a sexual invitation, but most often indicates that she likes you.
Another indicator of her sympathy is her attempts to court you. For example, she removes pills from your clothes or straightens your shirt if it is wrinkled.
As stated above, if you want to test her feelings, touch her. If she pulls back, she is not comfortable. This doesn't always mean she doesn't like you, she might just be more sensitive and need to get used to your touch.
If she shows physical contact with other people, for example, hugging when meeting, then her withdrawal is not a very good sign.
6. She blushes when she's around you.
We often blush when we receive an unexpected compliment or like someone.
If you notice that a girl often blushes in your presence, then this is a good sign.
However, it is worth paying attention to whether she blushes when interacting with other people, because she may simply be shy.
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7. Her pupils dilate
Although this sign is not so easy to see, dilated pupils are an indicator of attraction.
Look her in the eyes while talking, but try to do it casually so as not to scare her. However, remember that the pupils naturally expand when the light is dimmed.
8. She copies your movements and gestures
This is one of the proven signs that a person likes you, and it is something that we do subconsciously.
Please note this:
Does she copy your hand gestures when she speaks? Does he try to be in the same rhythm with you? For example, if you speak slowly, is she also trying to slow down? All of these indicate that she likes you.
Also, if she cares about you, she will start using some words from your everyday life.
9. She looks at you
If she is interested or has feelings for you, she will look at you and maintain eye contact when you make eye contact.
At the same time, the girl may smile or examine your face, throwing a few glances from time to time. This behavior is quite obvious, it says that she likes you, and she is not afraid to show it.
However, if she is nervous or shy, she may lower her eyes when making eye contact.
Often a girl turns away if a man notices how she is looking. This is actually a sign of attraction and means that she is interested in you but doesn't want you to know it.
10. She preens
Almost any girl, in the presence of a representative of the opposite sex who is attractive to her, begins to preen herself: adjusting her clothes, touching her hair, or applying gloss to her lips.
This is how our psyche works - we want to look as good as possible next to the object of our affection. Of course, everything can be explained by some nervousness or anxiety.
However, if you notice that a girl is trying to dress up, carefully takes care of herself, and slightly protrudes her lips, then all these are clear signs that the man she likes is nearby. Moreover, preening most often indicates not just sympathy, but a strong attraction to a man.
11. She clings to you and tilts her head
If a girl moves closer to you when you are talking, she is showing with her entire appearance that you have her attention. This is especially true if she behaves this way in a group of people and pays more attention to you than to others.
Thus, she subconsciously tries to be one on one with you in space.
The same meaning applies to tilting the head, which shows interest and involvement in the conversation. If you like a girl, try to pay attention to her in conversation, maintain eye contact and show your interest in conversation.
12. She uses open body language
You can tell how comfortable she is by how open her postures and gestures are. If her arms and legs are relaxed and her posture is not closed, it is safe to say that she is not feeling tense around you. This sign is not a direct indication of attraction, since she may be comfortable with a friend.
It all depends on the context. If you've known her for a short time and she exhibits open body language, it's a great sign that there's a strong connection between you two.
It is very important for a girl to feel physical and psychological comfort when choosing a guy.
However, it still depends on her character. If she is more private or shy by nature, she may not use open positions, even if she likes you.
If she is straightforward and confident, this behavior indicates her great sympathy.
13. She is noticeably nervous or embarrassed
If she likes you but doesn't know you that well, she'll likely feel nervous or embarrassed around you.
Nevertheless, she wants to impress you and not lose face.
There are seven main signs that a person is nervous:
Touches your face, for example, touches the face, slightly twitches the cheeks or rubs the forehead.
Blinks frequently. Psychologists have found that the frequency of blinking increases when we are nervous.
Purses lips. This is an instinctive reaction that protects us from danger.
Fingers with his hands. This may include intertwined fingers, awkward twisting of arms back and forth, or cracking of joints.
He rubs his palms.
Yawns often. While this may seem like a strange sign, stress and anxiety are known to increase brain temperature, and yawning regulates body temperature by cooling the nose and mouth areas.
If you notice these signs in your presence, the girl may be nervous and she likes you (assuming you don't know each other very well).
As you get to know each other more, the nervousness will subside and it will be easier for you to get closer.
14. She rubs some object in her hands
This is a rather interesting sign, which is sometimes difficult to distinguish from normal behavior.
You need to pay attention to the following:
Look at how she holds the item. She gently strokes him, or maybe while she looks into your eyes? Subconsciously, she lets you know that she is attracted to you as a man.
She can also point an object towards you, as if she were pointing her legs or body towards you.
If she just clutches the object and glances at you, it probably doesn't mean anything.
If, on the contrary, she seems to be blocking the object from you, pressing it to her and turning her body away from you, then this is not a very good indicator that she likes you.
15. Pay attention to details
The most important thing you need to remember is that most women are more subtle in expressing their feelings and do not show their interest overtly.
Moreover, it is known that it is women who take the first step, but they do it quietly.
What signals do women send most often to men who interest them?
A long, close look from the side at the man she likes
As soon as your eyes meet, the girl smiles and looks away
She starts to preen
She takes an open pose
She points her body at you
Signs of a girl's sympathy by behavior
1. She acts differently around you.
Even small changes in a girl's usual behavior can be an indication that she likes you. But before drawing any conclusions, observe her usual behavior around friends.
Is she more sociable and cheerful around you? This could be a sign that the girl is trying to impress you.
Some young ladies, on the contrary, become shy, clumsy and silent in the presence of the gentleman they like. If she blushes or looks at the floor, then she may be embarrassed or nervous because she likes you.
If she is not interested in you, she may turn away from you or give short, insignificant answers.
She may act a little irritated when you interrupt her or take up her time or direct her attention to someone who interests her more.
Does she treat you differently than others? For example, he pats you lightly on the shoulder, or puts his hand on you. If she doesn't do this with others, it could mean she likes you.
2. When you do something out of the ordinary, she blushes or gets excited.
Try to do something that will surprise her. This could be an unexpected compliment or a playful touch on the shoulder. The girl will not have time to react, and this will be a great indicator of her feelings.
If she blushes or appears embarrassed, this is a clear sign that she wants to impress you. She can simply run her hand through her hair or straighten her clothes.
If she seems a little annoyed, like you're distracting her from something important, then she's probably not interested in you.
3. Your friends want to leave you alone
How do your mutual friends behave towards you? If you notice how they try to leave you alone, then she likes you, and this is obvious even to others.
They may giggle, whisper, and smile knowingly when you're around.
However, this only applies to situations where the girl told her friends about you. In this case, they may try to find out more about the object of her interest and find out if you are suitable for her.
4. She pays attention to you
If she likes you, she will enjoy your time together. She will be all ears and will happily accept any attempts at interaction.
If she is shy, she will not shy away from conversation and will try to extend the time alone, but may not show that deep down she is happy.
When you're in a group, do they look at you more than the others? If so, then this is a clear sign of sympathy.
On the other hand, constant glances at the phone when you are talking one-on-one, or distracted glances do not promise you romantic interest on her part.
5. She gets excited when you say hello to her if she's talking to someone else.
Walk up to a girl while she's talking to another guy, say hello, and watch her reaction.
If she's embarrassed, blushing, or excited, it means she's worried that you won't think she likes this guy more than you.
She may even try to engage you in conversation to convince you that she likes you or to move away from the guy to show that there is nothing romantic between them.
Remember: her reaction shows that she cares what you think of her and she doesn't want to give the wrong impression about herself.
If she doesn’t seem to notice you, or your greeting rather distracts her, then she most likely likes your interlocutor better.
Also, in a group of people, if she likes you, she will look at you more and observe your reaction.
6. When she does or says something, she looks at your reaction.
This is one of the most reliable indicators, which is quite easy to notice, especially if you are in a company.
If after a girl says the phrase she looks at you, this is an indicator that she is looking for your approval and is trying to impress you.
This becomes even more obvious when she tells a joke in a group of people. If she likes you, the first thing she will look at is you to make sure you are funny.
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7. She asks personal questions
Many men do not notice this sign. Personal questions are not the kind of questions we ask out of decency, but deeper ones, perhaps? with an emotional context.
For example, instead of asking “ What do you do for a living?" she asks " Why did you choose this profession?”.
Pay attention to unusual questions that you are not used to. She most likely thought for a long time before asking you the question. Such questions are an indicator of her interest and attraction.
8. She tries to connect with you on social media.
It’s not always easy to understand that a girl likes you through correspondence on social networks. Here it is important to understand how determined she is to communicate with you.
Monosyllabic answers can indicate indifference, and on the contrary, detailed phrases show interest.
How quickly does she respond? The faster the better. But it’s also likely that she won’t want to look too approachable and may deliberately respond late. If her response is delayed for several days, then this is already an alarm bell.
9. She calls you when she's drunk
You probably know the expression: “ What a sober man has in his head, a drunk man has on his tongue”.
Alcohol liberates and helps us express our emotions honestly.
If a girl texts and calls you when she's drunk, then she definitely wants to be with you. She constantly thinks about you, and alcohol pushes her to action.
10. She lets you know she's single and wants to know if you have a date.
She will not necessarily ask the question: “ Do you have a girlfriend?“Most of the fairer sex are not so straightforward.
She will try to find out using more subtle methods. For example, she will say that she went to the wedding alone in the hope that you will also share with her the details of your personal life.
In this way, she is trying to test the waters and find out whether your relationship has a future.
11. She even laughs at your stupid jokes.
Even if everyone around you knows that the joke is stupid, the girl you like will still laugh at it.
In general, if a girl smiles a lot when talking to you, she definitely likes you. She enjoys your company and wants to make a good impression on you.
12. The conversation between you seems casual.
This is a great sign of chemistry and understanding between you. And where these two things exist, sympathy arises automatically.
Again, if she likes you, she will participate more in the conversation, ask questions, and be generally more talkative to avoid awkward silences.
If you care about her too, you'll likely do the same to make the conversation enjoyable.
13. She starts revealing her little quirks.
When a girl feels at ease, she begins to show more of her real self. At the beginning of a relationship, many people try to make a good impression and hide some oddities, but the easier and freer she is with you, the more she will open up.
This shows that she is comfortable with you and knows that you will accept her for who she is.
Although this behavior is common among friends, if you are not in the friend zone, you have definitely gained her trust.
14. She tells you personal details about her life.
In the same way, as you get closer, the girl you like will talk more about herself and share details of her life. This means that you have gained her trust.
If you communicate often, this does not necessarily indicate romantic feelings.
But if you've known each other for a short time and she reveals more personal details about her life, it's safe to say that she likes you.
Likes and comments on your page are one of the clear signs of a girl's interest. She can actively monitor your updates, remember everything you are interested in, and generally study you and your interests.
If you two are more intimate, she may post photos of you together to show others that you are together.
If you don’t know each other so closely, her behavior may not be so obvious and may be limited to likes.
Did you know that 90% of the communication that occurs between people is non-verbal? This means that we understand most of their phrases and expressions through facial expressions, gestures, hand movements and body position. This means you can understand a lot about what a man is thinking. Even if he hasn't said anything yet. Therefore, you will find useful information on how to understand a guy’s body language in order to maintain a more comfortable conversation with him and.
Watch him and his eyes
Eyes are one of the best helpers in any conversation. From them you can determine a lot, and even what is on a person’s mind and what he does not want to talk about. So be sure to look your guy in the eyes when you ask him important questions. When a man finds a girl attractive, he usually looks at her without taking his eyes off. He can notice her in any company, look, catch your eye, turn away, and then look at you again. These are our human instincts. We keep looking long and hard at things we really like.
How to use your eyes to determine whether a person is telling the truth or lying
When a guy looks up, then to the left, he is being honest in his answers. When he looks up and to the right - and tell a lie. If he looks down and to the right, he is using internal dialogue. This means that he thinks carefully before answering your questions. And when he looks down and to the left, he tries to remember the smell, taste or certain sensations before answering.
How to Read a Guy's Body Language Using Your Eyes
When a guy's eyes look to the side, but not at you, it means that he is trying to avoid the conversation. He's not interested in what you just said. When he tries to avoid direct eye contact, it means that he is a little nervous or scared of something. This isn't always a bad thing. But in in this case, you will be the one to lead the conversation. You will need to choose a topic so that the guy and you feel comfortable talking about it.
When his eyes move from side to side, a person is thinking about what to say next, since he has no topics to talk about. In this case, you will again need to take the initiative. When a man's gaze is directed upward or to the left, it means he is using the left side of his brain. Which helps us remember names, dates or other significant events. So, first of all, watch his eyes. This will make it much easier for you to understand the guy's body language.
How can you tell if a guy likes you using body language?
A man's body language can give you many clues about who he is. Here are some of the most popular signs. If his eyes get big when he talks to you, this is a sign that he is interested. Our eyes become larger when we are around people we like. When his eyes look straight into yours, it means he respects you. Because looking into someone's eyes is a sign of respect and admiration. Many men avoid direct eye contact. Therefore, if you are not afraid of this, then you are very lucky.
If a man is in love, he tends to mirror your body language. So if you are sitting together at a table and your feet are straight and pointing towards him. Then he will have the same position of his legs and body. After all, when we like someone or something, we tend to copy it. Even if we don’t understand that we are doing it with the help of body language. If his body is directed in your direction, this is another sign that he is not indifferent to you.
Watch the man's hands, feet and behavior
Let's talk about how to understand a guy's body language through his hands. If a man's arms are crossed, it means he is closed to conversation and is not very interested in you. The same applies to crossing your legs. This means that the person is closed in on himself. and has no desire to communicate with you. But when you see that a man’s legs are wide apart and his arms are down, this means that he is open to dialogue.
If a man often sits next to you, it means he is interested in you. Let's say you come with a group to a restaurant. And a man has the opportunity to sit anywhere, but he prefers to sit next to you. This is definitely a sign of his interest. If a man tilts his head towards you when you talk, this is also a sign that he likes you. If you are standing next to him and talking, take a look at his legs. This may seem strange. But when a man is in love with a woman, his feet will point towards her. If not, then his feet will point towards the door. This means that he wants to leave the conversation. We also tend to touch things we like and avoid those we don't. If a man constantly finds a reason to touch you. Whether it's holding your hand or him taking a hair off your sweater, he's definitely in love with you.
Observe his behavior
You can understand a guy's body language by his behavior. When a person sits straight and has an even posture, it means that he is attentive and interested in what you are talking about. And when he leans back or slouches. In this case, he is not fully engaged in the conversation, and he is less interested in you. If a guy nods his head during a conversation, this is a good sign. It means that the guy is following the dialogue and listening to you carefully. But if he has a blank look and is lost in words and answers. Then he is clearly bored and wants to leave.
“When you drink good wine, do not ask where it comes from, but ask an honest person about his religion and origin,” said the great Russian educator Feofan Prokopovich. All that remains is to follow the advice of a wise man. Try not to touch upon topics such as religious beliefs and relatives in conversation. There is nothing wrong with them, as such. But some people react in the most unpredictable ways even to neutral and positive statements on these topics. Who knows, maybe your interlocutor is one of them.
"The boss is such a bastard..."
A descendant of English aristocrats and intelligence officer Kim Philby believed that statements addressed to his superiors should be listened to with a straight face. In general, regarding criticism there is Golden Rule: before you start criticizing someone, you need to ask yourself: can I repeat the same thing publicly, in the press or on television? Remember him every time you want to speak about your leadership.
" Yes, sure!"
Admit it honestly, how many times has this already happened: there was a call, and then an offer to move to another position or another job, or to participate in some new project... You still don’t really understand what we’re talking about, but from you are already demanding an immediate decision. Stop! Never give quick consent to an unexpected proposal. If someone needs you specifically and there is no trick or crime in the offer, then they will give you time to think.
“Well, why are you so scary...”
It is rightly said that “the man was too honest to be truly smart.” Anyone who asks you if they are too fat or boring is hoping to hear, if not a compliment, then at least something comforting. And don’t be surprised later when he is offended by your honest answer. Problem areas of appearance, mental abilities and the character of the interlocutor are three points that are best not assessed. After all, everything in this world is so relative!
“And I also had such a case...”
As soon as you notice that they are no longer listening to you or are listening clearly out of politeness, immediately end your monologue! The same thing happens when your story is suddenly interrupted unexpectedly (for example, by a phone call). Do not resume your match until you are asked to do so. Believe me, most often your interlocutors don’t want this at all.
"Filter the market!"
How you correspond in ICQ is a purely personal matter. In live communication, it is still better to refrain from slang words and especially profanity. Your interlocutor is not obliged to waste time deciphering what you actually wanted to tell him.
" What's in a name…"
Even if you tell something extremely interesting, if you don’t smile even once during the conversation, consider your efforts in vain. It is important for the interlocutor to know that contact has been established between you. And if you speak with an impassive look, then your counterpart, instead of listening carefully, will begin to think why you didn’t like him and what’s wrong here. And one more thing: call your interlocutor by name. This is both a tribute to respect and a way to win someone over.
Touch is non-verbal communication that speaks about the sincerity of intentions much more eloquently than words. If we touch on the most pleasant and varied tactile signs, then, of course, they all relate to love. For example, if a man likes you, he will always look for an opportunity to touch you again. But not everyone is able to catch the subtle hints of the body that a partner involuntarily makes.
A man can tell you anything, but only his actions can tell you about the most important thing. A person’s body, his movements and facial expressions reveal all the ins and outs of both the person himself and his attitude towards you. We have all heard about “closed postures”, which indicate that a person is not inclined towards you.
Or about powerful signs of dominance, symbols of lies - when the opponent cannot concentrate and look into the eyes. Sometimes we can clearly see by gestures who is the leader in a pair and who is the follower. And only skilled manipulators who know the meaning of thousands of touch signs are able to play the desired emotion. It’s not for nothing that there is a popular technique in NLP: when you want to convince a person of something, try to touch him lightly and casually.
Psychologists say that with the help of nonverbal means of communication, you can learn about a person even what he carefully tries to hide. Representatives of the stronger sex are usually silent, like partisans, so women have to figure everything out on their own. Carefully observe body language - gestures, facial expressions, body position, movements of a man in love. This way you can always find out what is going on inside him.
It turns out that there are a great many gestures that symbolize real feelings: the crossed fingers of a couple speak of partnership and sexual compatibility, the intertwining of hands - of chemistry between partners, face to face - of true intimacy, and there are hundreds of hugs and kisses that indicate harmony in a couple varieties. Let's understand everything in order...
First, some statistics: with the help of words a person conveys only about 7% of all information, but with the help of non-verbal means of communication - about 55%. The remaining about 38% are various nuances of sounds: intonation, timbre, voice pitch.
And the famous female intuition, by the way, which we are so proud of, is nothing more than the natural ability to correctly recognize non-verbal signs. This superpower is inherent in a woman by nature so that she can correctly recognize the desires and needs of a baby when he cannot yet “report” his needs. By the way, many married couples with great experience are able to communicate without opening their mouths. It is often enough for a husband to see his wife’s gaze to understand that he has done something wrong.
So, what signals, as a rule, are given by a man’s high feelings:
Eyes
Our pupils automatically dilate when we look at someone we like. This is one of the reasons why people say that the eyes never deceive. This process is impossible to control, so watch his eyes carefully.
Plus, if he's not already in love with you, staring straight into his eyes can quickly fix the situation. This tricky method is called the Rubin Graduation: Try looking at the person you like about 75% of the time you talk. A man’s brain will react instantly if he is also attracted to you. The fact is that the human brain has the ability to respond to the attentive gaze of an individual of the opposite sex; accordingly, we ourselves begin to believe that we are in love, and our brain begins to actively secrete a hormone such as phenylethylamine. It is the chemical brother of amphetamines and is released by the nervous system when we are very infatuated with another person. It is this hormone that makes our heart beat faster, worry and blush when we see it. Of course, it is impossible to interest someone using the Rubin gradation if you see that you are not attracting a person at all, but the technique can be used in the case when you want to increase the already obvious interest in yourself.
And remember that there are three types of gaze: powerful, intimate and social. If a person looks at the bridge of your nose, you will feel uncomfortable because it is a powerful look. And it is very difficult to lie with such a look - by the way, this is exactly how investigators are taught to look during interrogation. Looks at the nose - this is social, the most comfortable for us. An intimate gaze is when a person looks directly into the eyes, then slides down and falls below the chin. If an intimate gaze is returned to you, it means that a relationship has been established between you. high level trust. From these views one can understand the level of intimacy between a man and a woman.
The socks of his feet
If a man stands or sits next to the woman he likes, the toes of his feet will always be turned in her direction. He seems to be walking towards her, mentally. Even in a large company this will be noticeable. Watch men's legs and you will understand who you like.
Hands
If he turns almost his entire body towards you and your hands are tightly intertwined, then this indicates his desire to be as close as possible. In general, tight palm-to-palm contact is a sign of the deepest connection.
Gestures and facial expressions
If a man unconsciously copies your facial expressions, movements, gestures, he is “mirroring” you. This means his desire (still unconscious, but already expressed) to protect you.
But, to tell the truth, in men almost all the main gestures are associated with the groin area. The more he wants to emphasize his masculinity, the more emphasis is placed on the groin. Here is the whole simple male arsenal of courtship: open knees, scratching, hands near the waist. In general, guys in this sense are as simple as five cents. The wider a man spreads his legs when he sees a woman and the more often he touches his belt on his trousers, the more he likes her as a woman.
Active gestures
Even if a man begins to tell you something about work, from the outside it will seem to others that he is sharing with you an incredible action that he experienced five minutes ago. After all, his words will be accompanied by various movements of his hands, so he is trying to get into the zone of your attention in some way. Therefore, if you notice that a colleague constantly flickers before your eyes, comes close, tries to help, listens attentively, there is no doubt - he likes you.
Palms
Open palms are the most ancient signal that “I have no weapons, I come in peace.” If in a conversation both palms are either relaxed, or when gesticulating a person constantly shows open palms, it means that he is sincere and friendly with you. But if the interlocutor began to hide his palms in his trouser pockets, pressing them tightly to his body - this is what men most often do - this is a signal that, firstly, he no longer wants to participate in the conversation, and secondly, he is bored.
Hand on waist
A man can place his hand very low on the waist or even lower. At first glance, the gesture has intimate and sexual overtones. However, this is actually a manifestation of defensive behavior. He wants to show everyone that you belong to him and that you are more than close.
Nostrils
A man's widened, flared nostrils indicate his strong sexual interest. It’s as if he doesn’t have enough air near the woman he loves because of the feelings overwhelming him, and he tries to take a deep breath. He fiddles with some parts of his clothes, for example, twists a button. This nervous gesture indicates that he feels uneasy and you clearly have a strong influence on him.
Appearance
Eloquent non-verbal gestures also include a man’s obvious desire to look good in front of the woman he loves. He takes care of himself, tries to dress up, keeps his clothes and shoes clean, begins to take an interest in perfume, and may have signed up for a gym. And all to look the best in front of you.
Behavior in society
Also, in order to win a woman’s favor, a man tries to be the center of attention, showing his sharp mind, ability to tell funny stories or make the audience laugh. He can show off his recent personal purchases and belongings, thereby demonstrating his financial independence and security, knowing that women primarily choose strong and independent partners.
Men, of course, are great conspirators and never confess their love too early. They are afraid of becoming vulnerable, weak in the eyes of a woman, they are afraid of being rejected - in general they are afraid of a lot of things. But nevertheless, a woman will still be able to recognize how a man treats her. To do this, you just need to learn to correctly interpret his gestures and facial expressions - and there will be no secrets left.
Only one important advice: Never underestimate men. Often, many of them are well versed in female psychology and can easily use the same weapon against you.
Women always want to know what feelings a certain man has for her. NLP psychologists say: there is no need to beat around the bush, guess or ask leading questions, just close observation of the behavior and gestures of a potential chosen one is enough...
So, what does the body language of a man in love tell us?
Sight
When talking about the nonverbal behavior of a man in love, the first thing people pay attention to is his eyes. This is a real mirror of feelings and emotions; they reveal the true attitude towards oneself.
How does a man look at you? A representative of the stronger sex in love opens his eyes wide, looking at the object of his affection, as if he wants to examine every part of his beloved. He looks for a long time, studying, appraising, admiringly, starting from the face, sliding further along the perimeter of the whole body. This is done unconsciously - this is how the young man visualizes his actions towards you. But if you shoot your eyes back, your companion will quickly look away. He, of course, hopes for reciprocity, but this gesture promises that he does not want to be exposed so quickly. If the game is repeated again (despite the fact that you have noticed interest in yourself, he is again secretly looking at you), be sure of interest young man to yourself!
In the psychology of communication, there are three types of views: social, power and intimate. A man in love looks at a woman exclusively intimately, looking straight into her eyes, as if wanting to get into her very soul. There he looks for the answer to his innermost questions: “Are you ready to become mine?”, “Do you trust me?”, “Do you agree to move to a new level of communication?”
Pay attention to a man's eyes; some signs automatically indicate that he is in love:
- dilated pupils (indicate sincere sympathy, desire for intimacy, sexual attraction);
- shine (produced by the release of the hormone phenylethylamine, which makes us experience fever-like symptoms in the presence of a nice person);
- change in color (being next to a beloved woman, the eyes become a “pool”, so their color seems darker, more saturated, as if they were covered in a veil).
There is an interesting method in psychology that allows you to identify true sympathy for yourself using a glance. To do this, when communicating with a man, do not miss close eye contact with him for a long time. If a person has a crush on you, his brain will definitely respond to your message. You will notice excitement, embarrassment, a rush of blood to the face, uncontrolled facial expressions, etc. Using this technique, it is impossible to rekindle a guy’s feelings if they don’t exist, but you can discern an existing sympathy!
Facial expressions
Facial expressions closely border on visual contact, so pay close attention to the man’s face when you are in his field of vision. The eyebrows are the first to “give up”! In a calm state, they are unshakable, however, having caught a pretty woman, they begin to fly uncontrollably up and down, displaying their inner experiences. If a man deliberately raises one eyebrow, this gesture demonstrates deep interest in the girl!
Falling in love is clearly indicated by a man’s olfactory organ. Our nose is quite sensitive, so when we are nervous, excited, or emotionally uplifted, we breathe more often, more intensely, and deeper. At the same time, the nostrils flare, as if instead of oxygen, a person in love inhales hot air! At the same time, the lips also treacherously dry out, which is why men in love often have to lick them with their tongues. This gesture speaks of a secret desire to kiss a pretty person. We are accustomed to the fact that only women do this in attempts to seduce a man, but this is a common physiological need in the presence of the object of adoration.
And, of course, a smile! She begins to play on the lips from the first second the beloved woman enters the man’s horizons and does not go away until he sees her. Moreover, it appears involuntarily. A man may notice this and change his facial expression, but over time it treacherously resurfaces. A smile, as a rule, is sincere, wide, and kind.
Please note: if a man starts smiling from the first word you say (even if it’s not addressed to him), this is a gesture of sincere sympathy! So intuitively he wants to seem more attractive to you!
Gesticulation
Body language is an expression of feelings. With its help, you can learn not only about sympathy for yourself, but also, in principle, read all the secrets of human consciousness, since every gesture carries its own message.
The first thing that shows increased attention to a girl is the gestures of the hands of a man in love. They are always on the move. If you are discussing something, your companion’s hands actively accompany the conversation, because the guy wants to impress you as much as possible and at least somehow get into the center of your attention. Open palms will often be shown, this is a gesture of frankness: “I am open to you, I trust you, I accept you.” Relaxed hands speak of goodwill, sincerity, and tenderness. But crossed or hidden hands in a pocket scream that the interlocutor has lost interest in what is happening. If a man begins to nervously fidget with something in his hands (car keys, key fob, napkin, phone), he wants to end the meeting as quickly as possible.
Follow your companion's fingers; Freud also said that their demonstration reflects sexual overtones. Does he show them, highlight them, expose them? If they are actively involved below the belt (putting thumbs in the belt of trousers, sticking fingers out of pockets, etc.) - a gesture of obvious manifestation of erotic interest, one’s authoritarianism, desire to dominate over a partner.
A man in love, when he sees a woman he is interested in, always watches his appearance: straightens his jacket, straightens his collar, tilts his head to look at his shoes, brushes dust off his pants.
Pay attention to the man's legs. To find out if he is in love, look at how he sits and stands in front of you. Firstly, the toes of the shoes will always be facing you, this is a subconscious gesture indicating that the companion is ready to follow the woman. Secondly, look at the other person's ankles. If he is standing, his legs will in most cases be spread wide; if he is sitting, his ankles will be crossed. By the way, if a guy is unsure of himself, in a vertical position he will need support, for this he will begin to push one leg forward. If you are in company, this leg will indicate the one he has feelings for.
Body position
To determine whether a man is in love, it is enough to look at the entire pose and the manifestation of individual parts of the body. But here, to clarify, it would be appropriate to take into account the guy’s character and self-esteem.
Confident men with all their gestures and external manifestations say: “Look at me, I am the one you need,” “I am strong, brave, courageous, with me you will feel safe.” Representatives of the stronger sex with high self-esteem always “stretch out” in front of a woman, wanting to appear taller, straighten their shoulders, stick their chest forward, and lift their chin. This is how they try to please the one they are in love with. Psychologists often compare such chosen ones to peacocks, showing off in front of the peahens. The body is always turned towards the beloved, legs are widely spaced. A person who stands firm demonstrates his confidence and determination.
If a guy is not too confident in himself, he will have his own signs by which one can determine whether he is in love. His head will be slightly lowered, his posture will be tense, his shoulders will be tense, and his gestures will be stingy. If you stand opposite each other, the man will not be able to stand calmly and evenly. The legs will dance every now and then, change their point of support, pick the ground, etc.
If a man can show off his figure to his companion, he will do it with great pleasure. He will play with his biceps, expose his torso, show off his abs, wearing a tight T-shirt. He will be happy to help his beloved physically: lift something, move something, catch up with someone, show endurance, etc. Guys who ignore sports will not focus on their appearance, so they suck in their stomach, wear clothes of universal sizes, They prefer quiet leisure to active leisure.
Touch
Tactile contact is perhaps the most straightforward gesture indicating a man’s sympathy for a woman. The desire to touch your partner always speaks of falling in love, since you only want to feel closely a person who is pleasant to you. What can a girl notice? Firstly, the satellite is trying in every possible way to reduce the distance between you. For any reason: come close to better hear your story (show something “important”), sit closer so that there is enough space for others at the table, ask something, etc. His goal is to enter your personal space and simultaneously assess the response to this.
Secondly, pay attention to the guy's hands. A man in love always tries to unobtrusively, gently and easily touch the girl he likes. Remove a speck from your hair, shake a bug off your shoulder, “accidentally” touch it, support your elbow when descending from a slippery porch, put your hand close to yours at a meeting. If you are at the level of friendly relations, you may notice constant body movements in your direction: comic pushes, slapping the cheeks, pinching, hugging, scratching hair.
If there is more than friendship between you, but you don’t know what exactly a man feels for you, focus on his direct touches. He puts your hand tightly in his - a sign of deep affection, holds you by the waist - demonstrates his importance, touches you from behind - he is always ready to protect, console, support.
Please note: if a guy for some reason is in no hurry to touch, he may show his sympathy in a different way. For example, stroking a glass, phone, table surface, etc. with your finger. These gestures mean that he is determined to give your body affection and tenderness, but due to indecision, he is waiting for initiative from his companion. If he touches his own face, hair, neck, he is nervous because he cannot openly show his sympathy.
If you want to test a man's feelings, touch him first and gauge his reaction. The chosen one in love will gladly reciprocate with approval, tenderness. He received the green light, which means he is ready to cross that very line!
Other bright signals that indicate a man is in love
The gestures and facial expressions of a man in love, his eyes and postures are not all that can tell you about the feelings of a representative of the stronger sex. There are also subtle signs in non-verbal behavior that indicate a warm attitude towards a woman.
- A guy in love subconsciously adopts the gestures, body position, breathing rate, and pace of conversation of the girl he likes. If you notice this emotional adjustment, then you are perceived as more than a friend.
- Demonstration of your financial well-being. Show off your wrist with an expensive watch once again, carry a gold-plated pen with you, twirl the latest model phone in your hand, treat your team with expensive delicacies - this whole game is for you if you catch the above-mentioned signals in your direction. This is how males in love behave, saying: “Pay attention to me, you will not be disappointed, I will fulfill your desires.”
- Unusual behavior. Illogical statements, embarrassment, excessive swagger, spontaneity, fussiness, increased activity, etc. If you have known a man for a long time, pay attention to whether he has changed or has always been like this.
- A man in love always tries to impress the lady of his heart with masculine actions, so he often appears before our eyes. What you need? Borrow an umbrella, walk you home late at night, help you climb to the 8th floor, fix the printer, stand up for you with a colleague, listen to you, give good advice? The knight will always be in the right place at the right time!
- The gait becomes more airy, flying, soaring. The pose is open, the head is raised. This is how a man demonstrates natural strength, agility, and grace.
- The voice of a man in love betrays him completely. If he is self-confident, the timbre becomes lower than usual, hoarseness may be present, the pace of speech slows down, the voice sounds more courageous and mature. This speaks of lust. If the companion is unsure of himself, on the contrary, the voice will become beyond his control: the timbre will be higher than the real one, the speech will be confused, fast, monotonous.
People in love also have their own strange gestures. We are sometimes so clumsy in front of the object of our affection that these features from the outside seem crazy. Have you ever noticed that in your presence a man makes illogical, unconscious movements? For example, straightens an empty wrist (as if it were a watch), unfastens the top buttons without touching them, loosens the tie, ultimately leaving it in the same position, etc.? If you notice these non-verbal gestures, you know that the man is trying his best to attract your attention!
Do not rush to ridicule or condemn a man for absurd manifestations of love. Nonverbal behavior is an unconscious message that does not lend itself to introspection. The more strange the gestures in your direction, the more naked the person’s feelings!
The signs of male love are so multifaceted that it is simply inappropriate to evaluate gestures taken out of context. Psychology already contains so many books on nonverbalism that you can determine a man’s true attitude towards himself with eyes closed. The bestsellers are “Body Language” by A. Pease and B. Pease, “I See Right Through You. Learn to read a person like a book” by K. Messinger, “I see what you are thinking” by D. Navarro and M. Karlins, “How to learn to understand people” by O. Sergeev and many others. This is truly a necessary skill in interpersonal communication, because we can avoid mistakes and act according to correctly drawn conclusions. Study men, know yourself, be happy!
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